Psychiatric Therapy Won’t Heal What Feminism Broke

Op-ed in Visegrad24

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The Cost of Having It All

I have spent much time as a psychiatrist sitting across from women in deep distress. Women who, by all modern feminist measures, have done everything right—high-achieving, independent, and financially stable—yet arrive in therapy inconsolable. Best-case scenario? They regret not spending more time with their kids. Worst case? Forty years of palpable pain.

I say this with compassion, but also with anger. Women have been sold a lie. The messaging is relentless: You can do anything you want as long as you want it badly enough.Kids are optional. Career is everything. The right man will just show up when you’re ready.

When they wake up in their mid-30s realizing their deepest desires were put on hold for too long? The same voices tell them it’s just society making them feel this way. That they must “reframe their narrative.” That therapy can help them be happy with what they have.

I know this lie because I used to believe it, too.