I want to find out what Joshua did with his men after battle before they were allowed to return to the community. I know of ritual bathing. perhaps like building a sweat lodge or something of the sort. When my father died when I was "protected by my mom to the extent I wasn't allowed to attend hi funeral, only allowed to the funeral home viewing. To this day I don't like the smell of the kinds of flowers that filled the room. Seeing him lying in the casket I couldn't sleep on my back for years or I had nightmares of lying in a casket. Over protection marked my youth only lifting weights and developing real strength and having a few mentors as I grew older helped me.
I'm glad you enjoyed the episode! As far as I know, after battles, Joshua and his men followed specific rituals to ensure that the soldiers were fully purified and spiritually prepared to rejoin the community. This often involved as you metnioned, ritual bathing, known as a mikveh, to cleanse themselves from the impurities of battle. They also observed a period of separation and would have to offer sacrifices to atone for the violence they had encountered. The sacrificial process was hard work, requiring both physical effort and they had to adhere precisely to the laws conencted to the sacrifice. Rituals related to mourning and funeral preparation in Judaism include the Taharah, where the deceased is washed and purified, the Shmirah, where someone guards the body until burial, the mourning, preparing tbe Shiva - a seven-day period where you sit on the floor in mourning while friends and family gather to offer support, performing acts of Tzedakah (charity) in the deceased's honor. This aligns with what Tom said about honoring. These ritauls all requre alot of preparation, coordination and thought to be performed in the correct manner, which is helpful when in grief. I hope this was what you were after, my condolences for losing your father at such a young age. Hannah
Before I converted to [now Traditional] Catholic I was a non-practicing Quaker, and when in my 20's had a friend convert to Hasidim Judaism, and was interested in learning about it so was welcomed by the Rabbi & community.
So many ways every day rituals done brought God into their lives, I thought that was Inspired and Beautiful. Even to this day I wonder if Catholics - perhaps as an added aspect - voluntarily follow some or most the rituals that Jesus live and did before the 2nd Temple fell, and have looked for what they were back then, not wanting the crippled and sadly warped versions that exist for all who missed the boat and did not convert .. and as Gaza genocide shows us, some sects would do that to us and other of their tribe without pause. Sad.
The fraction of the rituals and theology has served me well in my Catholic Theology and have made connections between - for example - Sacrament of Reparations and Wedding at Cana (Water to Wine) that gave my Priest pause.
The long sitting with the dead and month (or 40 days?) of morning is another example of Deep Healing we all are fools not to do.
.. Well, my dead family seem always with me still, so perhaps not everyone always needs it. My boss when I worked in a research lab reduced his presence for a while after his father passed, and then came back as strong as ever, likely only to ever things of him in love and not grief.
May this reply find us all ever closer to God, and His Peace.
We knew so little about mourning and children 50 years ago and did the now unthinkable of excluding them from rituals for their protection. Sounds like you are doing some good work now in letting that stuff go.
Hi Tom, I really meant what I said. You really should get more recognition then you do. I find your views on relationships fascinating, and when applied to my own failed marriage I can somewhat understand why I felt trapped and disenfranchised. Even 15+ years after my divorce, my X can still find ways to emasculate me. I realised now that there was no way to appease her.
Married, I thought for the long haul.
I built what was to be our house;
One acre block
300m squared, 2.4m verandahs all the way round, 4 very large bedrooms and 2.8x3.2 study
Large 2 car garage, 12x4.2m shed.
Designed the house and drafted the plans
Laid out and dug the footings for the grano workers
I cut the glass and manufactured the windows and doors on site
Drove nearly every nail, erected the wall frames, veranda posts, roof structure and fitted the windows
Fitted the roof and all the down pipes
Fitted 91.4 square meters of light coloured timber pitched ceilings in the open living room/dining/kitchen
Hand fitted herringbone parquetry floors (with Jarrah wood patterned inlay) throughout 240m squared
Plastered (dry wall) and painted every wall and ceiling
Laid all the tiles (with brass patterned inlay)
Fitted Dolby surround sound cabling in the walls, for later sound system
Fitted a CAT 5e network thought house for internet in living room in every bedroom and study
Did all the second fixing (hang the doors, fitted all the wardrobes, skirting boards, architraves, chair rails)
Fitted the slow combustion wood fire with forced fan ducting
Planted the gardens/lawn and fitted the reticulation
Did this while was working full time, in the evenings using lights till 1AM in the morning and almost every weekend
Took me 3 years, sometimes with the help of my brother and father on the weekends.
Thought it was worth it as I only had to borrow $37k from the bank
It was not finish before she moved in while I was at work because she was getting impatient.
Years of being primary carer for the children.
Years study to improve myself
My wife was cold and critical of me nearly all the time.
I only hang around for the kids, but that ended one day when she handed me a piece of paper with some $ amounts on it.
And then said you can tell me where your going to be living when I (she) gets back in two weeks.
I asked her why, she said "I don't love you and probably never did".
My ex lives there now with her boyfriend, because she was and I quote "not happy" 23 years in and with two children.
I had to borrow 260k from the bank at the age of 52 and start again
I will never marry or have long term relationship ship again.
But I take some solace that my two children love me and are very stable and successful women.
Alan, sorry for your suffering and I hope your children were old enough to be resistant and understand if mother tries to damage your relationships.
It seems odd to me that your (my, and so many others) related experiences have not been more public in media. Likely because it reflects poorly on woman and motherhood and like the high Parental Fraud, False-Rape accusations, disposability of men, children, our unborn, and sanity, And so many ways that argues that few women should vote, or have any power over others and with their children when father is supervising.
That trust of them should always be verified, and testimony value in court and else where should be linked to last 5-years statistics for Parental-Fraud (1/3 rate), and False accusations of rape filed with police (80%), so that with those values we may allow women's testimony value to be 1/10th of man's value.
My wife was in a car accident and head trauma changed her. I could not get her to laugh anymore, and struggled to 'fit' together. And refusing to seek counseling or other help, she grew more withdrawn to me, and after a year or two she started blaming me for everything. Being no saint and sometimes managing my own psychologic hurt that my wife was 'dead' and the women alive was a dark-version. I did not like how she disrespected me in front of our son, and he heard her blaming me .. it was undermining our relationship.
Yet married through sickness and health, and so on & on and pain accepted in Hopes something positive would happen.
One day it did. She filed for divorce and besides the short term hardship, like Judge ordering to not touch our shared money yet somehow to move out .. I have a strong view of family court and family services, law-makers, or anyone that separates father-children, or parents-children - hanged in public over the corpses of all older adults in their families for Suffering us such horrors, and all supporting them.
Anyway - 'she was not happy'. Over 1/2 of wives report that as reason, and 80% divorces are by wives. Well, with us all accepting insanities like it is acceptable for mothers to kill our babies on a whim, why would lesser insanities seem strange?
May this reply find you and us all ever closer to God, and His Peace.
This is fascinating, thank you!
I want to find out what Joshua did with his men after battle before they were allowed to return to the community. I know of ritual bathing. perhaps like building a sweat lodge or something of the sort. When my father died when I was "protected by my mom to the extent I wasn't allowed to attend hi funeral, only allowed to the funeral home viewing. To this day I don't like the smell of the kinds of flowers that filled the room. Seeing him lying in the casket I couldn't sleep on my back for years or I had nightmares of lying in a casket. Over protection marked my youth only lifting weights and developing real strength and having a few mentors as I grew older helped me.
I'm glad you enjoyed the episode! As far as I know, after battles, Joshua and his men followed specific rituals to ensure that the soldiers were fully purified and spiritually prepared to rejoin the community. This often involved as you metnioned, ritual bathing, known as a mikveh, to cleanse themselves from the impurities of battle. They also observed a period of separation and would have to offer sacrifices to atone for the violence they had encountered. The sacrificial process was hard work, requiring both physical effort and they had to adhere precisely to the laws conencted to the sacrifice. Rituals related to mourning and funeral preparation in Judaism include the Taharah, where the deceased is washed and purified, the Shmirah, where someone guards the body until burial, the mourning, preparing tbe Shiva - a seven-day period where you sit on the floor in mourning while friends and family gather to offer support, performing acts of Tzedakah (charity) in the deceased's honor. This aligns with what Tom said about honoring. These ritauls all requre alot of preparation, coordination and thought to be performed in the correct manner, which is helpful when in grief. I hope this was what you were after, my condolences for losing your father at such a young age. Hannah
Fascinating Hannah, thank you.
Before I converted to [now Traditional] Catholic I was a non-practicing Quaker, and when in my 20's had a friend convert to Hasidim Judaism, and was interested in learning about it so was welcomed by the Rabbi & community.
So many ways every day rituals done brought God into their lives, I thought that was Inspired and Beautiful. Even to this day I wonder if Catholics - perhaps as an added aspect - voluntarily follow some or most the rituals that Jesus live and did before the 2nd Temple fell, and have looked for what they were back then, not wanting the crippled and sadly warped versions that exist for all who missed the boat and did not convert .. and as Gaza genocide shows us, some sects would do that to us and other of their tribe without pause. Sad.
The fraction of the rituals and theology has served me well in my Catholic Theology and have made connections between - for example - Sacrament of Reparations and Wedding at Cana (Water to Wine) that gave my Priest pause.
The long sitting with the dead and month (or 40 days?) of morning is another example of Deep Healing we all are fools not to do.
.. Well, my dead family seem always with me still, so perhaps not everyone always needs it. My boss when I worked in a research lab reduced his presence for a while after his father passed, and then came back as strong as ever, likely only to ever things of him in love and not grief.
May this reply find us all ever closer to God, and His Peace.
God Bless., Steve
We knew so little about mourning and children 50 years ago and did the now unthinkable of excluding them from rituals for their protection. Sounds like you are doing some good work now in letting that stuff go.
Tom Golden is great man.
Thank you Alan for such a generous comment!
Hi Tom, I really meant what I said. You really should get more recognition then you do. I find your views on relationships fascinating, and when applied to my own failed marriage I can somewhat understand why I felt trapped and disenfranchised. Even 15+ years after my divorce, my X can still find ways to emasculate me. I realised now that there was no way to appease her.
Married, I thought for the long haul.
I built what was to be our house;
One acre block
300m squared, 2.4m verandahs all the way round, 4 very large bedrooms and 2.8x3.2 study
Large 2 car garage, 12x4.2m shed.
Designed the house and drafted the plans
Laid out and dug the footings for the grano workers
I cut the glass and manufactured the windows and doors on site
Drove nearly every nail, erected the wall frames, veranda posts, roof structure and fitted the windows
Fitted the roof and all the down pipes
Fitted 91.4 square meters of light coloured timber pitched ceilings in the open living room/dining/kitchen
Hand fitted herringbone parquetry floors (with Jarrah wood patterned inlay) throughout 240m squared
Plastered (dry wall) and painted every wall and ceiling
Laid all the tiles (with brass patterned inlay)
Fitted Dolby surround sound cabling in the walls, for later sound system
Fitted a CAT 5e network thought house for internet in living room in every bedroom and study
Did all the second fixing (hang the doors, fitted all the wardrobes, skirting boards, architraves, chair rails)
Fitted the slow combustion wood fire with forced fan ducting
Planted the gardens/lawn and fitted the reticulation
Did this while was working full time, in the evenings using lights till 1AM in the morning and almost every weekend
Took me 3 years, sometimes with the help of my brother and father on the weekends.
Thought it was worth it as I only had to borrow $37k from the bank
It was not finish before she moved in while I was at work because she was getting impatient.
Years of being primary carer for the children.
Years study to improve myself
My wife was cold and critical of me nearly all the time.
I only hang around for the kids, but that ended one day when she handed me a piece of paper with some $ amounts on it.
And then said you can tell me where your going to be living when I (she) gets back in two weeks.
I asked her why, she said "I don't love you and probably never did".
My ex lives there now with her boyfriend, because she was and I quote "not happy" 23 years in and with two children.
I had to borrow 260k from the bank at the age of 52 and start again
I will never marry or have long term relationship ship again.
But I take some solace that my two children love me and are very stable and successful women.
Alan, sorry for your suffering and I hope your children were old enough to be resistant and understand if mother tries to damage your relationships.
It seems odd to me that your (my, and so many others) related experiences have not been more public in media. Likely because it reflects poorly on woman and motherhood and like the high Parental Fraud, False-Rape accusations, disposability of men, children, our unborn, and sanity, And so many ways that argues that few women should vote, or have any power over others and with their children when father is supervising.
That trust of them should always be verified, and testimony value in court and else where should be linked to last 5-years statistics for Parental-Fraud (1/3 rate), and False accusations of rape filed with police (80%), so that with those values we may allow women's testimony value to be 1/10th of man's value.
My wife was in a car accident and head trauma changed her. I could not get her to laugh anymore, and struggled to 'fit' together. And refusing to seek counseling or other help, she grew more withdrawn to me, and after a year or two she started blaming me for everything. Being no saint and sometimes managing my own psychologic hurt that my wife was 'dead' and the women alive was a dark-version. I did not like how she disrespected me in front of our son, and he heard her blaming me .. it was undermining our relationship.
Yet married through sickness and health, and so on & on and pain accepted in Hopes something positive would happen.
One day it did. She filed for divorce and besides the short term hardship, like Judge ordering to not touch our shared money yet somehow to move out .. I have a strong view of family court and family services, law-makers, or anyone that separates father-children, or parents-children - hanged in public over the corpses of all older adults in their families for Suffering us such horrors, and all supporting them.
Anyway - 'she was not happy'. Over 1/2 of wives report that as reason, and 80% divorces are by wives. Well, with us all accepting insanities like it is acceptable for mothers to kill our babies on a whim, why would lesser insanities seem strange?
May this reply find you and us all ever closer to God, and His Peace.
God Bless., Steve
Good job interviewing Tom Goldman