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Pallavi Dawson's avatar

Hi, I liked your video and appreciate your work. I think it’s so important to understand different personalities, behaviours and how they combine in a relationship. I have spent most of my life trying to understand a complicated relationship. I knew something was unusual in my childhood and then in my late twenties after reading blogs identified with certain behaviours and patterns. With caution I applied the narcissist label to the person exhibiting the behaviours. I also looked at my own behaviour.

The TikTok videos and immediate labelling, all done in quite a light way which I find eerie, are dangerous. I think sometimes you have a clash between people, particularly females and there’s no need for a label. Anyway, your video helps me in my own journey to processing the past and also looking into the future. For now, I don’t want to make any rash conclusions, as I think I’ll be thinking over my relationship for the rest of my life, it was an important one that took me decades to figure out and eventually feel I have to leave.

One thing before I end my post is that I look at how the person behaved in a way that was disproportionate and that stands apart from the issues discussed in the video. Finally, a big thank you for your video,

Pallavi.

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Hannah Spier, MD's avatar

Hi Pallavi, thank you! I’m pleased to hear the video helped you and I think you are right about not pathologizing between mismatched personalities. All the best to you for the rest of your journey!

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Pallavi Dawson's avatar

Thank you!

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